High IQ vs High Social IQ: The “young Sheldon” Case
Useful information from a recent episode of “young Sheldon”
I find “young Sheldon” highly relatable, for when I was a little boy, I was much like the protagonist on the brain front, though never on the Math end of things. Young Sheldon lives in a world he desperately tries to see as rational, needs to control and flips out when things start to get off track. Hates change. He is doted on by both his mother and her mother AKA Me Maw, and it’s fair to say the family dynamic is grossly skewed in his favor, as you’ll see in the video when his fraternal twin sister, Missy, lays it out for the female researcher helping conduct a university study in Houston of fraternal twins. In terms of priorities, Sheldon comes first, followed by older brother Georgie, who shares a passion for sports and cars with his coach father, while she comes last and really has no one on her team. Sad.
Young Sheldon is an obnoxious git who must always be best, though even he has had to concede he’s terrible at sports and is afraid of, or dislikes, many things, including that staple of children back then called playing outside. Germophobe! It is a wonder he can function at all. He revels in tests, and is obsessed with any and every performance metric, but discovers in an ego shattering way that a super high IQ does not suffice for every type of test. How is this possible?
Young Sheldon’s ability to understand social dynamics is practically zero, and though the researchers are at pains to say, “It’s not a competition,” it’s plain to see (starting at around 1:20) that sister Missy’s social and emotional comprehension (her EQ or Emotional Quotient) is so extraordinary that it makes the delta between typical IQ scores and Young Sheldon’s seem minor by comparison. At her age, girls are generally several years ahead of boys from their age group when it comes to emotional awareness and social skills, but in Missy’s case, it would appear that in her realm she’s a young Sheldon and then some, but in a sphere of knowledge where he is, much to his confusion and bruised ego, an almost complete ignoramus. Not only can she suss out the personal connections in the domestic scene drawings where animals play humans, but she can and does read people and social situations with such aplomb that she has a significant life impact on the researchers themselves.
Conclusions & Insights
Brains are necessary but not sufficient to have a well rounded life, and there is a crying need for people who genuinely understand and appreciate others, for without them, nothing gets done. We are social animals and generally need to work together. Dad used to talk about the importance of having horse sense and lament “Common sense isn’t.” Young Sheldon has a long, tough road before him in his ongoing effort to, in a very real sense, learn to be human, instead of a veritable robot disguised as one. There are plenty of people out there who find dealing with others unfamiliar, hard to do, even scary. Prime examples are those with Aspberger’s Syndrome and who can benefit from special coaching on how to read, interpret and respond to the postures, tells and expected behavior of the neurotypicals (normal people) with whom they have to deal in order to progress through life. Please be kind to those whose EQ isn’t on par with yours.